..When My Heart Speaks**

“There is no perfect relationship, but loving and accepting each other’s imperfections makes a relationship worth keeping.” "Love never assures long days, months and not even years because love won’t fade if it is true and taken care of.”

 True love they say is just an illusion and it doesn’t exist. But for me I know and BELIEVE that it is real and it can happen anytime. When can you say that it is true love and if he/she is the right one?

It is true love if you are willing to love, respect, trust, understand and accept the Whole her. " she will be the most important person.” True Love always Involves Commitment.” Being faithful and trusting someone despite the distance.

In a relationship there can always be misunderstandings along the way and adjustments are very important. All of us have flaws and all of us have been created differently. Willing to adjust and understanding each other’s weaknesses is an important part to save and stay in a relationship.. Oooopppsss.  adjusting and not changing one’s self to please a person so don’t get me wrong my friends.

There is a big difference between adjustment and change. Adjustment is giving each other a chance to adapt to some differences that you have, learning and allowing both of you to grow and mature together. Change is different because if one wants someone to change just to let him feel and prove her love then it is not true love. True love is accepting the whole her and not making her change for you!  Believing that she loves you and not hurting her in any way!

It is true love when she gives time and effort to be with you when you needed her the most. She/he makes you feel loved even through phone or appreciate the most simple things that he could give.

When you feel Contented and Happy with a person. When you stop asking too many questions because you know you can trust him/her and what matters is loving the true you.

p.s: "My quiet angel" THANK YOU for giving me love More Than the LOVE that I Should Deserve.I love you :)

♥ ♥ THE BEAUTY OF A WOMAN ♥ ♥

 THE BEAUTY OF A WOMAN

The beauty of a woman lies IN HER SILENCE

rather than her speech

The beauty of a woman lies IN HER VEIL

rather than her face

The beauty of a woman lies IN HER SUBMISSION

rather that her leadership

The beauty of a woman lies IN HER SMILE

rather than her laughter

The beauty of a woman lies IN HER PATIENCE

rather than her inquisitiveness

The beauty of a woman lies IN HER ABODE

rather than her adventure

The beauty of a woman lies IN HER OFFSPRING

rather than herself

The beauty of a woman lies IN HER EXPERIENCE

rather than her age

The beauty of a woman lies IN HER HEART DEPTH

rather than in skin deep

The beauty of a woman lies IN HER KITCHEN

rather than in cubicles

The beauty of a woman lies in her PERSPIRATION

rather than her perfumes

The beauty of a woman lies in her LORD because he is the creator of such a beautiful thing called “Woman”...!!!

p.s: the above poem is dedicated to 2 most beautiful people 

      1) my MOM ♥ ♥

       2)the LOVE of my life ♥ ♥

Cute moments….

She has cute little, big, beautiful eye, gray eyes, always lined with kohl, the cute little nose and the nose stud she wore, the naturally pink lips all set in that heart-shaped face made her look like an angel. The smile, the dimples that the smile bought, the way her eyes brightens every time she smiles takes my breath every single time I look at her...

What I’m going to talk about are ”cute moments”.  Moments those we are always surrounded with, but somehow miss out on admiring. What cuteness brings with itself is a truckload of happiness and smiles. Cuteness or cute moments aren’t very special things. They are general and real. All you need is keen observation.

Every relationships have fights but not all the fights bring tears, some fights are really cute….. (people may think I am crazy for calling a fights to be cute), well, for people who don’t agree with me here’s a story of the fight me and my girlfriend had the other day:

‘pawn, cancel it then. I don’t care!’ she was shouting, sitting with one leg draped over the other, her right foot suspended above the ground and shaking purposefully. Every time she sits like this, she keep shaking her left foot. With her arms around her chest she continued to look away from me. She was furious.

We had planned an outing today and I had forgotten my project submission was on the same day.

‘why do you care, baby? It is my submission, na? and I’ll be held responsible for not submitting it.’ Saying this I smiled. And I continued to look at her.

I had just supplied fuel and oxygen to the fire in the situation.

‘pawan, don’t you dare laugh, okay!’ she turned and looked at me only to scare me with her big eyes and her raised finger.

Once a month, only for few days, my charming sweetheart transforms into a furious avatar. Biology offers it a decent biological name—menstrual  cycle. I had my own dictionary term for it—my hopeless days!

She would be irritated with every little thing. Every action-reaction of mine would go for the toss. Logic, rational and most importantly, common sense will, all of a sudden, fail to exist. Mood swings drive everything. And I, national player of martial arts, would go from being her boyfriend to becoming her puppy at her command.

See…… got the point, told ya not every fight is meant to bring tears, this one makes me laugh when I am sad. Just pay a little more attention and you would find cute moments in your relationship J 

From trying to figure out which teddy(white or pink) to pick up for your girlfriend to trying to decide your hairstyle for your date, all somehow are loaded with the quotient of cuteness. Imagine your loved one thinking hard and deep on what to write to make you happy. Things are written, they are torn and again written in a new fresh page with enhanced love and smiles. Cute moments truly!!

These are just some out of innumerable that happen to pass by. Don’t rush through, pause, listen to them…… see what they have to offer. They provide you with reasons to smile, just like the day when I first saw my girlfriend!!!

45 THINGS A GIRL WANT, BUT WON'T ASK FOR ♥

1. Touch her waist.

2. Actually talk to her.

3. Share secrets with her.

...4. Give her your jacket.

5. Kiss her slowly.

Are you remembering this?

6. Hug her.

7. Hold her.

8. Laugh with her.

9. Invite her somewhere.

10. Hangout with her and your friends together.

KEEP READING ..

11. Smile with her.

12. Take pictures with her.

13. Pull her onto your lap.

14. When she says she loves you more, deny it. Fight back.

15. When her friends say “I love her more than you”, deny it. Fight back and hug her tight so she can’t get to her friends. It makes her feel loved.

Are you thinking of someone?

16. Always hug her and say I love you whenever you see her.

17. Kiss her unexpectedly.

18. Hug her from behind around the waist.

19. Tell her she’s beautiful.

20. Tell her the way you feel about her.

One last thing you need to do to show her you actually do mean it.

21. Open doors for her, walk her to her car - it makes her feel protected, plus it never hurts to act like a gentleman.

22. Tell her she’s your everything - only if you mean it.

23. If it seems like there is something wrong, ask her - if she denies something being wrong, it means SHE DOESN’T WANT TO TALK ABOUT IT - so just hug her.

24. Make her feel loved.

25. Kiss her in front of OTHER girls you know!

WE MIGHT DENY IT BUT WE ACTUALLY LIKE AND KINDA WANT YOU TO TICKLE US ..

26. Don’t lie to her.

27. DON’T cheat on her.

28. Take her ANYWHERE she wants.

29. Text message or call her in the morning and tell her have a good day at school, and how much you miss her.

30. Be there for her whenever she needs you, and even when she doesn’t need you, just be there so she’ll know that she can always count on you.

ARE YOU STILL READING THIS? YOU BETTER, BECAUSE IT’S IMPORTANT.

31. Hold her close when she’s cold so she can hold you too.

32. When you are alone hold her close and kiss her.

33. Kiss her on the cheek; (it will give her the hint that you want to kiss her).

34. While in the movies, put your arm around her and then she will automatically put her head on your shoulder, then lean in and tilt her chin up and kiss her lightly.

35. Don’t ever tell her to leave even jokingly or act like you’re mad. If she’s upset, comfort her.

REMEMBER ALL THESE THINGS WHEN YOU ARE WITH HER NEXT ..

36. When people diss her, stand up for her.

37. Look deep into her eyes and tell her you love her.

38. Lay down under the stars and put her head on your chest so she can listen to the steady beat of your heart, link your fingers together while you whisper to her as she rests her eyes and listens to you.

39. When walking next to each other grab her hand.

40. When you hug her, hold her in your arms as long as possible.

MAKE SURE SHE KNOWS SHES LOVED.

41. Call or text her at night to wish her sweet dreams.

42. Comfort her when she cries and wipe away her tears.

43. Take her for long walks at night.

44. Always remind her how much you love her.

45. Sit on top of her and tell her how much you love her and then bend down to her face and kiss her while you’re sitting on her.

You’ll never know when she needs just a little more love .. ♥!

ps: now you know what exactly girl want's when ur around her..... so be a perfect boyfriend if you remember all the above :) i do remember and that makes my relationship perfect :)

love vs friendship....(short story)

Now, it is a complex story so please pay attention. Abhi is a very old friend of mine. Even though his age is 25, seven years elder to me, we have always had a great time whenever we have hung out.

I met his girlfriend on the celebration of Christmas eve. And my only reaction was Oh-My-God. Trust me when I say she was drop dead gorgeous. The perfect eyes, skin, hair and what not. She seemed to have descended from the heavens. She was out of this world, like a Miss World or something.

I wouldn’t say there were instant sparks between Abhi’s girlfriend and me.  We became friends from that point .We  were as comfortable together as a guy and girl can be. And then, it ended. Because love always just has to interfere.

Love ruins friendships. Every single time. And especially if it is one-sided. But whose fault is it? She told me not to fall in love with her. She was out of bounds. Committed to someone else. And I had promised I would take care of that. We decided to be friends. And just that.

But, both of us knew something was going to happen. It was until next time things actually ’happened’ between her and me. I wish I could tell you how good she was.

But as it happens, love sees more complication and frustration than friendship. The grass on the other side always seems snazzier. It’s not the girl’s fault that she starts to feel for her me.

So is it my fault, then? Wasn’t I told categorically not to fall in love with her? She was someone else’s. I knew. But then, of course, you cannot plan love. You cannot decide to go against the basic laws of the heart. You cannot stop it from feeling things it wants to feel. You are human.

Now Abhi’s life is no less complex in itself. He is 25 years old and has joined his Dad’s business. In spite of long struggle, he hasn’t been able to outshine his Dad to make a mark for himself. Every now and then, he gets drunk and calls me and asks what he is doing wrong?

I tell him the truth. I tell him he is an idiot and that’s what he is doing wrong.

To make the matters worse, Abhi’s girlfriend thinks very highly of me.

So, we become far more than just-friends. And we did realize that. Only – the label is still there. We are still not acknowledging what we feel for each other. It’ll only invite disaster. It was just not meant to be. She is someone else’s, remember? So they decide to stick with the label of just-friends. An unspoken, mutual decision, of course.

But then, love happens when you least expect it, love flowers again. Now between the just-friends(me and her). Bot between her and Abhi . Because yes, love has more complications and frustrations, but in the good times, it also has much higher high-points. And the feeling of being in love… of the loving someone and being loved… nothing surpasses that. And so, the love overtakes again.

And me? The friend? Of course, I’ll always be there, in the background, supporting her and being with her when she needs me. Loving her silently. Dying inside, seeing her happy with someone else. Cursing myself for resenting her happiness. I  should be happy that she is happy. I always knew she was not meant to be mine. i have no complaints.

So what was once just-friendship, had a short moment of love, I would not get over my feelings that easily. Especially with her being around me constantly, as they are best friends. Always there for each other.

And that girl would be happy with her guy (Abhi), the one she truly loves. But sometimes she’ll wonder… what it would have been like, had she been available. We would not have been just-friends, surely. There will be moments, when my love for her would not be so brilliantly veiled. And in those moments, she would feel pity for me… and would go back to her boyfriend.

she was in love with two guys at once For a moment,  but that is her little secret. The whole thing is way too twisted. She is unsure about her feelings, but is convincing herself what she thinks is right..

And the friendship? It is gone. And slowly, the complications and the frustrations in the friendship exceeds that in love. Told you, love ruins friendships.

Ps: love kills friendships, so it is wise to make certain boundaries or limitation in your heart and mind on who is who…. Whether he/she is your friend or your lover???

♥ ♥ secret of relationship ♥ ♥

I am here to talk about something where everyone in their lifetime fuck up least once if not more!!!

I am talking about the relationship that guy and a girl share, the relationship which thrives and survives on love! Now even though I was a bit apprehensive about writing this one but well there are a few people around and I am pretty sure around the world as well who need to get things sorted out as far as their ‘love’ relationships are concerned.

Generally speaking this is how people  get into relationships, first you calculate if the other person is good enough for you to date or not. Is he tall enough?? Is she hot enough?? Is he rich enough?? Is she hot enough?? Is he interesting/funny enough?? Is she hot enough?? Is he intelligent enough? Is she hot enough??

Most of the people you meet never match the criteria you set. They are total reject. But then, there are few, who do fulfil your criteria. Then you meet that person 2-3 times, you will call him/her your friend and 10-12 meetings and maybe your lover.

Finally after few days/meetings, the guy proposes the girl and they end up in something that the world refers to an intimate relationship or an affair or something similar. Now the initial part of their relationship, the beginning of the relationship, both of them are inseparable. Wherever they go, whatever they do, they do it together, and this lasts for a lifetime and for some it might last for one day (which the world popularly calls as one night stand. There are enough sick people out there who go ‘in’ for something like that)

Okay let’s say that the average length of relationship (current scenario) is six months and for some couples it lasts for one and half years. Lucky them…. The initial period is the time in which there is love, there is intimacy, there is the feeling of being loved, the feeling of being cared for, the feeling of having something to look forward to, someone to look up to. The problem begins once this initial period is over..

If scientists are to be believed and I do not authenticate this information in any way whatsoever, the physical attraction towards a certain person lasts for the maximum of one and half years. But then, is it physical attraction towards a certain person that governs the relationship? It is just the physical attraction that a guy and a girl look for out of a relationship?

I do know most of you will have plane NO as an answer but well then why dose love fade away with time??

At first, again, the initial period, there is an intrigue around, you want to know the other person better. The reason that you believe the time you spend with the person to be love, the first few meetings and the first few months because you feel that you are being taken care of. It’s nothing but the attraction you get from the other person that makes you feel loved, cared and all those lovely emotions! At the end of the day, every is an ASB, everybody feels the need of being taken care of and that’s what you tend to consider love. I say this because most of the time, the complain that the guy or the girl has is that they aren’t giving each other enough time. When the statement of ‘you don’t talk to me’ comes, it is generally followed  by ‘you don’t love me anymore’ which is exactly the reason I am forced to think that attention is what all a person seeks out of a relationship!

Love is never wrong, but well the partner you chose may be wrong. That’s why problems occur, you fight and relationship end!

Over years, there are things that you get to know about a person that you don’t appreciate of but you just can’t do anything about it and have to accept the person the way he or she is!! Let’s accept it, if it is love you will  accept the person for how they are and wouldn’t try to impose your opinion or try to mould in the way that you would like!

If you aren’t able to what has been just stated above, it is not love, it will never be love! Over here, I am not denying that you shouldn’t rebuke the person if he or she faulters and takes a path which is totally wrong but you should always try to understand the other person’s perspective as well. All you can do is try and never really impose your opinion on any one. If you do, you don’t love the person. As simple as that. Now, I do believe that there will be a few out there who would term me as a crazy person but well it’s a fact. If you can’t accept the person for the way they are, you were never really in love with them.

It’s shocking, the innumerable number of times people have break ups and patch ups in their relationship, to put it plainly, it pisses me off! Sure there might be a few misunderstandings but well which relationship doesn’t have that? You and your parents too have quarrels and difference of opinion at times, that doesn’t mean you end the relationship altogether. The reason you ‘break up’ the relationship is because it is possible! You can break up a relationship with a certain boyfriend or a certain girlfriend because there isn’t anything at stake apart from a few insomnia filled nights and a few liters of tears and the odd depression struck days!

 As far as I am concerned, if something like this happens in a relationship, things go so wrong that you end up breaking it, it is never meant to be! Okay, once or twice because of a few misunderstandings, (which shouldn’t happen in the first place) can happen but it happens over and over again then I am sorry to say it was never meant to be.

Not only this break up-patch up thing irritating and utter nonsense, but too kiddish. May be you are just an overgrown child! What I mean to say is, if you were a cool headed adult, even if the situation of a misunderstanding arose (which most of the times is because of a certain third person), you should clarify it with the person. Love thrives on trust and if there is trust you wouldn’t ever hide anything and would clarify things no matter how idiotic or how bad it is! As for the break up led by not being able to talk, not being able to give each other time, well that’s the dumbest thing that I would ever do in my lifetime. Fine, you are bound to get irritated if you don’t get your dose of the person but well you have to be understanding enough to reason out and understand the reason for not being able to talk. Another important aspect of a relationship is that if one is angry the other has to be understanding and express love in the weirdest way possible and that is by given in to the other person’s demand. If you have too big a ego to stoop down, well, in that case you don’t deserve to find the love of your life anyway because even if you do, you wouldn’t be able to keep it for long and the break up-patch up cycle will soon begin and more often than not, these things are ultimately bound to end up badly.

In the end, it’s all about understanding the person. Love is all about knowing the person inside out and still loving him or her for what she is. Love, after all is the purest of all the emotions!

PS I am no love guru. All the above is just based on pure observations and may be a little bit of experience too!  So if you really love someone, hold on to him or her for in the current situation, finding true love is arguably the toughest thing possible and holding on to him or her even after having found it, is all the more difficult. So if you find true love you are one of the lucky few who do so hold on no matter what! 

my priority list!!!

It was 2 in the morning, was speaking to one of my friend, over phone. Let me not get into the details, but the bottom line is: I realised only if I would have been a practical person knowing my priority I could have made a hell lot of difference in my life.

After messing around my life….. doing stuff which even I am guilty of, I thought will this time come back??? This is when it struck me from nowhere, why not set priority list to my life…… another messed up issue to sort!!!!  

Priority list!!!! This was kinda interesting  and challenging to me, as I knew most of what I don’t want rather than what I want in my life……. I prepared a cup of cappuccino to myself (cappuccino always make me go think deeper) and sat on my bed with parker in my hand to pen it down my so called priority list……

Studies??  Parents?? Career?? Love?? Friends?? Big words and I still don’t know where to put them on my priority list. Since child maa telling me, ‘beta! One day you’ll find your love and will get married’ so is love my priority?? Dad telling me, ‘beta! You have to make me proud and I know you will’ . so much confidence in me?? EXPECTATIONS!!! I will dad… I will… studies and career are my priority. Again confused… parents, love, studies, career blah.. blah!! Oh my god! It was a bad idea to even make a priority list. Experimenting and putting all my hearts and sinking in my degree class and studying, but again failed as someone complimented me for my smile and then I thought ‘she’s the one! The love of my life!!  but let me be honest here my priority changed suddenly. After a month I realised, that people actually compliments you to mend their own ways! Saying and doing things under the blanket of friendship! Nobody is honest. When I thought I was one, then people thought I am faking it up as they did initially. So wy be honest!!

Just simply prioritise myself!! Whom to talk, whom to be with, whom to share things with, whome to trust and try to indulge in myself as that will give strength to walk happily through the beach side of my life. ……?

# fuck my life