5 ways to know if your relationship destined for disaster.

No one gets into a relationship with the intention of it failing, but sometimes you’ve got to accept the situation. Every relationship is different, but many ten to fail for similar reasons.

“They are whirlwind promenades that begin with sex and never seem to get around to the fundamentals of friendship and respect,” says love expert Richard Hamon. “They tend to be short‑lived and inconsequential. They tend to focus on quick satisfaction, instead of the underlying fundamentals.”

Whether it’s been a few years or a few weeks, there are ways of figuring out whether your relationship is salvageable or destined for disaster.

1) He or she is not making time for you

To be in a successful relationship, you must make each other a priority. Yeah, you both have lives that include school, work, family, friends, internships and more. But if you really love someone, you’ll make time for them no matter how hectic your schedule may be. If he’s more anxious to hang with his boys or she would rather be having a girls’ night with her friends and you’re constantly put on the backburner, it may be time for you to cut ties.

"You know a relationship is failing when your significant other deletes your posts on his or her Facebook wall and will take phone calls while you are in his or her presence and their tone completely changes. The biggest way to know that your relationship is failing is when you are no longer happy in the relationship." 

2) Your needs are not being met.

First of all, if you want a relationship to work, you have to make sure you’ve got your stuff together so that you can make a good partner to someone. A huge part of this is knowing what you want. If you know what you want, you’ll never settle for less than that. If being with your partner isn’t fun, fulfilling or comfortable, they may not be the right person for you. You should be able to laugh, have fun and feel emotionally supported with that person. The people in your life should lift you up when you’re down, not the other way around.

3) There’s little to no communication.

It shouldn’t be new information to you that the key to a healthy relationship is communication. Cliché, maybe, but true. If you can’t open up to this person and tell them how you feel, that’s a problem. You should be comfortable enough around this person that you can tell them anything, whether it’s opening up to them about personal issues or being honest with them about what they’re doing wrong. In turn, they should be just as open with you. If you can’t communicate, you’ll never know what’s wrong and the problems in your relationship will fester and eventually get the best of you.

4) You compare him or her to others.

Thinking about how much funnier that gorgeous bartender is than your girlfriend or how much more stimulating the conversation would be with that cutie from the gym? That means something is unfulfilled in your relationship. If you have a voice inside you that doubts your relationship, you should probably listen to it. Sure, even people who are happy may have fantasies about others, but when those thoughts become consuming, it’s a problem. This can be fixed by communicating with them what it is you want more (or less) of. If they heed your suggestions, you may just find that all you needed to do was talk to them. However, if you’ve tried this and it isn’t working, move on.

5) The cons outweigh the pros.

This may be cheesy, but it works. If you can’t make a decision on the fate of your relationship, make a list of your partner’s pros and another list of their cons. Compare these side by side and determine which list is more overwhelming. Even if one side has more points, the other side’s points may hold more weight. If the cons outweigh the pros and you’ve exhausted all your options in trying to make it work, your relationship has most likely reached the end of the road.

“A sign that my relationship isn’t working is when I’m no longer concerned if that person and I continue our relationship or not. When I can no longer see a future with my significant other, that’s usually my sign that our relationship is no longer working.” Miracle Rosey

P.S-- Break-ups are no fun, but they happen. It may hurt for a bit, but it’s not the end of the world. It doesn’t mean anything is wrong with you or the other person, it’s simply a matter of finding your match. The important thing is to try to make it work and not to give up at the first sign of a problem. If you don’t learn how to resolve issues in your relationships now, they’ll only continue to suffer as time goes on.

Past regression therapy….

Who was i??

An actor, a dancer or a person who was a social animal…. I think everybody in their lifetime thinks what were they in past life?? But somehow today they are so busy that they actually can’t recall and do not have that spare time to think about such stuff….. one of my friend is a tarot card reader… we have been friends for a long time…. Though she’s  much elder  than me, she understands  me as that is her work to do so. I was easily convinced by her that problems you face today in your present life have some or the other connection with your past life and that is why our inner conscious knows that  where are we wrong but we all tend to avoid it. I always wanted to know what I was in my past life and then I would be able to understand  why love is upset with me… is that just my misconception or it is really related to my past life..

Late night around 1 in the darkest hour of the night.. a boy looking for answers, with confused head, asking god and himself why me?? That was me who wanted to peep into my past life and see what exactly happened over there.

Once I start writing what experience I had, let me warn you all it sounds stupid and crazy. But that is how it was…… first vision….. I was sitting near the grave and weeping myself out, I was crying, weeping so loud that in the big place there was no one listen or help me out.

 I was into my past life, I can be so sure because while being in my subconscious I was crying… why was I crying??? What was the reason I was crying for?? All these questions were  going on in my subconscious mind. And the vision faded.

***

 The eyes that looked back at me were full of love and affection. No. The picture did not do justice to her beauty. The big, beautiful, gray eyes, always lined with kohl, the cute little nose and the nose stud she wore, the naturally pink lips all set in that heart-shaped face made her look like an angel. The smile, the dimples that the smile brought, the way her eyes brightened every time she smiled had taken my breath away every single time I’d looked at her, I’d considered himself lucky to have her. To have her love.

She’d promised to stay with me forever. Didn’t she tell me that no matter what, she’d always love me? Hadn’t she promised that even if I wanted her to leave, she wouldn’t because she loved me too much? Didn’t she tell me that she’ll never leave me alone? Then why?

Why did she go? Why did she leave me when I hadn’t even asked her to? Why did she break her promise? Where did the forever go?

I hadn’t asked her to leave. I couldn’t, ever. But, she did. For God wanted her to.

To see someone die is painful. It hurts. To see someone you love more than anything else in the world, die is excruciating.

I blamed myself for her death. No matter what my friends said, no matter how much my parents consoled me, no matter what HER parents said, I held myself responsible. The doctor had declared her brought dead and she’d died with my name on her lips and my hand in hers. i’d seen the pain on her face but I had also seen the love in her eyes.

If only I’d dropped her till her place that day. If only I had taken her words seriously when she said “she was scared to go home alone”, she wouldn’t have got “raped”  L yes that is what I saw she was raped  to death… that feeling I had was bad, degraded that how can that happen to her… but it did happened.

I looked below. 20,000 feet. I couldn’t even do that. I couldn’t even die. I knew I couldn’t end my life. The parents-mine and hers would not be able to take it. Her parents had lost their only child. myparents would lose theirs if I jumped.

I walked back to our home. The house she’d wanted since she was nineteen. I knew i’d  buy it. Buy it for her. But, there was no her.

 I wondered where she was. I wondered if she was watching me. Tears were flowing and I wondered if she was crying with me, wherever she was.

“I don’t want you to cry. Not a single tear, okay? I love you. Always have, always will,” I whispered crying out loud in front of her grave.

Two month later, I died in a road accident

I had the same family which I have right now…. And I could relate that girl whom I loved  to my present life, she was my best friend in this life… 

The past regression therapy ended and I came out of my first session. My eyes were heavy. My head was paining.  I was again and again thinking about it. I was feeling the volcano of feelings were there was pain, love, care,  feeling happy for someone and felt that what were the reason I was alive. My hands was speechless just crying my heart out and no one was there……

Moments Of Love

Why oh Why, Do I feel this way?

When I'm with you I feel so alive

Why oh Why, will I hide away

I can't help it

I'm FALLING IN LOVE with you...

The words "I love you" how many times do you say it in a day? When you  are busy on work, job deadlines and friends meetings sometimes a quick "I love you”" can always change anything at the end of the day.

However, sometimes there are persons who are shy and cannot say, “I love you” to their loved one personally. As one saying goes, "There's evidence behind it -- actions really do speak louder than words. If you cannot easily spill out romantic words to your partner these are simple strategies that will send your message loud and clear:

I'll be loving you forever

Deep inside my heart you'll leave me never

Even if you took my heart

And tore it apart

I would love you still forever...

"The best way of expressing love is by knowing what your love one needs and doing it,” This shows that you listen and that his/her well-being and happiness is important to you. Don’t wait any longer for your love to say I need this every time they will feel a lack of attention and if not fulfilled it will surely lead to despair. The key is to pay attention. A thoughtful gesture from someone you love is always appreciated no matter how small or simple it is.

it's not the flowers, wrapped in fancy paper

it's not the ring, we wear around our finger

There's nothing in all the world i need

when i have you here beside me,

here beside me...

An unexpected gift or note saying, “You are special or Thank you” on a card. "It shows that you think and care for her and feel connected to him even when you're not together." Simple thoughts can brighten up someone’s day always. No matter how tiring the day is if someone feels care and concern it will definitely make someone’s day brighter.

Take my hand

We'll walk awhile,

we'll talk awhile

Feel my love

Always there beside you...

A research says, "Looking into each other's eyes signals you are deeply connected”. Most busy lovers, however, manage only quick glances.  Take advantage of opportunities for eye contact that last longer than a few seconds will do. If you have a dinner date, lock eyes during your conversation. Face each other as you chat in bed before falling asleep. Even when surrounded by others seek out your partner's eyes and make a quick connection.

watching as you softly sleep

what i'd give if i could keep

just this moment

if only time stood still but the colors fade away

and the years will make us grey

but baby in my eyes

you'll still be beautiful...

 Even a simple call over the phone or a text message of showing your concern and care for that person would do. Just making someone feel that he or she is loved can be expressed in many simple ways. Even just holding your partners hands while walking, throwing a big hug and looking into her eyes or just a simple smile with a pat saying “Thank you for being a part of my life”,or a simple kiss is the real score  that bonds lovers together.

all i want is to hold you forever

all i need is you more every day

you saved my heart

from being broken apart

you gave your love away

and i'm thankful every day

for the gift...

Romantic gestures are not only for women every human needs it and that includes men. It does not matter if you are expressive through words or actions. The best thing is making everything to at least let your love be felt that he or she is extra special in your life.” It does not matter how simple it is if it comes from the heart with love.”

P.S: loving someone is blissful and if there's some who loves you, you are blessed... never let him/her go away from your life

best friends are not forever..

"Frustration leads to pouring heart out onto piece of paper. Conclusion... feeling exactly the same, if not worse."

Everyone has best friend , That one friend you loved the most, that one friend you shared your most dirty secrets and fantasies with, that one friend who ripped you apart like a heartless butcher, that one friend will always matter the most.

I clicked on the'New Post' button as soon as I logged in today thinking I'd just write about it and get it over with. But here I am, staring at the blank screen from the past 3 minutes wondering why do I even want to write about her. She broke me, she made me cry my eyes out, reached heights of misunderstanding me and still, there is that little corner of my heart that wishes her the best of all worlds.

She was my best friend for as long as I remember. I had more in common with her than I had with myself. People used to call us the alpha-beta couple.(why??? Will let u know some other day) And we always took pride in it's lameness :D, because we thought they both can't exist without each other. Well, apparently they can. I've spent the most beautiful days with her. Technically, she was my better half. We've played, yes played, laughed, cried....  I promised her that I'd be that crazy uncle who'll spoil her kids. We literally took an oath that we'd tell each other everything about our first nights. No, that isn't cheesy, that was two little 17 years old laughing and promising to be bffs forever.

Laughing like maniacs over something as petite as a tongue slip was routine. I haven't laughed like that since the day we've stopped talking. I miss that. I want my stomach to hurt when I laugh. It just doesn't happen now. I wish we'd never played the 'You've changed, a lot' game. We both lost. Each other. I don't miss her, I don't want her back, but my mind and heart refuse to shut down her memories. We've broken up hundreds of times, called each other names, but it never got this nasty. It has almost been months since I've seen her now.

She left a void. I have many beautiful people in my life right now. Everything is stable and lovely. But the void still exists. They love me, I love them. They care. I care. It still doesn't feel the same. I know it never will. This void has crept beneath my skin. Looks like you're only allotted a certain amount of tears per person and I've used up mine. Her absence doesn't make my eyes moist now. It feels like autumn. Dry autumn.

P.S: I think of her. Every single time. Secret: I've noticed that my heart drops a lot recently.

        I love you M, I always do, even while I hate you.