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Tuesday, 31 January 2012

power of gratitude

I find this emotion really hard to understand! One of my friend said he’s jealous of my relationship and he had a cruel intention to even break us apart… he said I had a perfect life and he didn’t like it…. Yes, he just said it on my face .. he’s not the only one who said it on my face many people did too… My life is just as ordinary or as enchanting as yours. It is just that I always look at the brighter side and I do feel very fortunate for all my blessings which I keep affirming.

One thing that I have truly learnt from life is that what Jerry and Esther Hicks keep teaching is indeed one hundred percent true. The laws of attraction do work. Positivity does work wonders. Once you understand (and practise) this simple but profound key, paths magically open up.(I am a believer of Rhonda Byrne's Secret).

So many people tell me that I am one truly positive person and ask me how I can be so happy all the time. Trust me, I have my really down moments too (ask my girlfriend and cousins and my closest friends), but I crib only rarely. Even in the bleakest of situations, I am indeed able to quickly bounce back and see the bright side.

One of the things which has worked for me to be able to do this is journalling. I do maintain lots of journals. One of them is a hand-written little gratitude journal in which I simply write down things I am grateful for. I do not do it every day and I update it whenever I feel particularly good about something someone did for me or something that happened. Once I write this, it is a total 'boost me up'.

If things are not going right for you, if something that you want very badly is eluding you, if someone has been really unfair to you, if the one you love has left you, if life is totally treating you bad, then it is indeed time to GRAB happiness. Start a gratitude journal today.

Here's how you do it:

Walk into a nice stationary shop and go through the journals on display for sale. Run your hands on their covers. Look inside and see if there is adequate spacing. Do you prefer a plain one or one with lines? Do you want one with handmade paper or do you want a sleek modern one? Do you want a mole-skin one or a leather bound one? Choose one which makes you feel totally happy.

Now choose a nice pen too and keep the journal and the pen beside your bed. You are ready to start.

At the end of the day, write down whatever little thing has made you feel good. You are not allowed to write any negative things in this journal. Did it rain today? Did the smell of rain make you feel happy? Write it down!, did your secret crush smile at you? Did the smile gave butterflies to your stomach? Write it down!

Remember there are no rules for what you can write or how much you should write. Write it as long as it makes you feel good and happy. The only rule is no negativity.

All my entries start with date and time at the corner and has the title 'Things I am grateful for today.'

The more you get into this habit, the more you find things to be grateful for. You are at peace with yourself,because suddenly you realise that there is truly a LOT to look forward to in life, which you have been ignoring as the blanket of negativity which you had earlier enveloped yourself with, was clouding your judgement.

Try it! Follow it sincerely. Believe in it and it will indeed change your life and fill you with happiness and peace.

P.S: Trust me. I know what I am talking about.

Sunday, 29 January 2012

Why is it important to say 'I love you'?

Amongst the many recurring discussions my friend divya and I keep having, one of the most frequent one is "Why is it important to say 'I love you'?"

Is it really important to say the words "I love you?" to your loved ones--your closest friends, your family members, your relatives and your spouse? If actions speak louder than words why isn't 'action' enough? Why do some people say these words easily and why do they choke in the throats of others like a fish-bone or like a large morsel of food swallowed hastily? If you are above the age of fifty you would probably find it harder to say the words, as you're conditioned to think and behave in certain ways. But if you're not older than fifty (give or take a few years) you probably can say them if you really want to.

The fact is that three simple words "I love you" when said, when you really mean them, have the power to uplift, to heal, to comfort, to calm and reassure. They are very powerful words indeed. All humans long to hear these words. They show an unconditional acceptance of the other person and create a powerful shield around their vulnerabilities.

Everyone feels unloved now and then. There is enough negativity, stress, anger and hate in the world. The words when uttered by a loved one, enriches the giver as well as the receiver. It goes a long way indeed in making that person feel wonderful. Think back about the last time that you heard those words. Remember the emotions you experienced. The person you say it to, would of course be experiencing the same emotions. Who does not want to be loved?

Saying "I love you" or "Love you loads" when you really mean it, is in fact, an electrifying form of communication. You can just feel the energy in those three words.

My friend divya says everybody has a cup of love that needs to be filled every single day. I agree whole heartedly with her.By nature, I am very expressive, and I do tell the special people in my life often that I love them. divya does too (a lot more than me) and it is no wonder that she draws so many positive people towards her.

Why is it so important? Because life is very short and very unpredictable. People die. Relationships die.There may be times or there may be days when you want to say it but you're unable to. You cannot because that person is no longer there. It is one of the saddest feelings I have experienced. I know that on some days I want to hear it very badly. (Perhaps my cup wasn't filled enough that day)

When parents hear "I love you", they feel assured that they did not do such a terrible job of raising you after all. When a lover hears "I love you" what he/she hears is "I am there for you even if the entire world is against you." When friends hear "I Love you" they feel appreciated and valued and loved.

So just say it! Text or mail if you're still shy about expressing it, but it is very important to express it.

I feel so content when I hear these words from the ones closest to me. I'd much rather have my cupful of love than a two pints of beer or a super bike any day! Sometimes I demand it, but it is not the same as getting it unconditionally.

If you're able to say it and if you have people who say it often to you, then you are blessed beyond belief. Consider yourself lucky. Very lucky and blessed indeed.

May it always stay that way!

p.s: when you say "I LOVE YOU" with all sincerity and when you truly mean it, a kind of magic happens which is hard to explain.

Don't believe me? Try it!

And I, for one, am fortunate indeed to hear these words often from my closest friends and from my spouse. I silently thank them and they go into my cup of blessings.

Friday, 27 January 2012

~♥~ 10 Ways to Melt a Woman's Heart ~♥~

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1. Call Her When you're feeling Sad, :(

2. Ask to See A Picture of Her;

When She was a Child..! ^_^

3. Occasionally Call Her;

By Her First and Middle Names, :))

4. When She's feeling Insecure;

Stare Into Her Eyes and Tell Her;

"There is No-One in the World

Who could be as Right for you as She Is..♥"

5. Call Her just Before you get on the Plane, :))

6. Try Desperately;

To Make Her Laugh When She's feeling Down, :D

7. In the Middle of a Conversation;

Tell Her you Love Her..♥ :))

8. Notice When She's Wearing Something New, :))

9. Hug Her When She gets Jealous..,

Hug Her Tightly..! ♥ x

10. Put your Arms Around Her;

When you Introduce Her to your friends and family..♥ :)

p.s: Love is not about loving someone till you are together.. Its about loving Him or her Forever ...♥ ♥ ~

Tuesday, 24 January 2012

I STILL WANT TO BE ME......

startled. puzzled , baffled , frightened , Perplexed.

I am living in a world where even 100% is not enough…

Scared about my future….. so many questions flashing in my mind but the one that actually makes me go numb is--à in this fight for success can values even exist..? Forget winning..??

I have been through thick and thin in short everybody has I am no one different but this great leap after 12th this will actually cause a huge vacuum in me and my thinking..!

It is so freaking complex... Relationships, me, future..!! These three things go to different directions

I have no idea how to bind them together… all I aim is I don’t want to lose the innocent child within me.. who still asks for sweets on every little occasion, who still wants his mother to tap his back , who still wants his elder sister to protect him when his father is angry…

I still want it

I really do

Sometime growing is not that good..!

I don’t know what future has in store for me but what I know is what I have stored in myself I am not letting that to be stolen from me..!

Yes, yes, yes I am competitive but not to the extent that I myself can’t recognize me…! It’s tough to let go and still be patient but it’s even tougher to let go when you actually want it..!

After 50 years also I want to be the same…. It’s all fantasy I know that yet I want it to be true..!!

I want to be me..!

Friday, 20 January 2012

♥ ♥ THE BEST PART OF YOU ♥ ♥

What I see in you,

The best part of you?

What makes me like you,

Still you want to know?

You are weird! Well, me too!

Make us even in so many ways

You read my craps, even when it really sucks.

And laughed to my jokes, no matter how it sounds.

You understand my riddle, even I never explained

When other rolled their eyes and think I’m crazy

You love to tease me in so many ways,

Gave me laughed, as your gifts in my days

You just like me, another me.

Make me wondering how far we will keep finding our similarities.

You giving me inspiration to fill my empty days.

Become the reason, for me to wake every day.

You know what compassionate heart means, and living through it

Wishing for the same dreams, which I’m really grateful to knowing

You asked me become your company, knowing I need that

Hold by loneliness, to finally found each other

Or maybe it is just because you are so cute with that smile

And making my tummy fluttered every time I look at you? :D

To be Honest, Dear,

The best part of you that I like so much

Because it is you, and not anybody else

But you.

p.s: my dear angel you always wanted to know what's the best part of you :)

and here it is, the secret reveled... :)

Monday, 16 January 2012

..When My Heart Speaks**

“There is no perfect relationship, but loving and accepting each other’s imperfections makes a relationship worth keeping.” "Love never assures long days, months and not even years because love won’t fade if it is true and taken care of.”

True love they say is just an illusion and it doesn’t exist. But for me I know and BELIEVE that it is real and it can happen anytime. When can you say that it is true love and if he/she is the right one?

It is true love if you are willing to love, respect, trust, understand and accept the Whole her. " she will be the most important person.” True Love always Involves Commitment.” Being faithful and trusting someone despite the distance.

In a relationship there can always be misunderstandings along the way and adjustments are very important. All of us have flaws and all of us have been created differently. Willing to adjust and understanding each other’s weaknesses is an important part to save and stay in a relationship.. Oooopppsss. adjusting and not changing one’s self to please a person so don’t get me wrong my friends.

There is a big difference between adjustment and change. Adjustment is giving each other a chance to adapt to some differences that you have, learning and allowing both of you to grow and mature together. Change is different because if one wants someone to change just to let him feel and prove her love then it is not true love. True love is accepting the whole her and not making her change for you! Believing that she loves you and not hurting her in any way!

It is true love when she gives time and effort to be with you when you needed her the most. She/he makes you feel loved even through phone or appreciate the most simple things that he could give.

When you feel Contented and Happy with a person. When you stop asking too many questions because you know you can trust him/her and what matters is loving the true you.