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I am here to talk about something where everyone in their lifetime fuck up least once if not more!!!

I am talking about the relationship that guy and a girl share, the relationship which thrives and survives on love! Now even though I was a bit apprehensive about writing this one but well there are a few people around and I am pretty sure around the world as well who need to get things sorted out as far as their ‘love’ relationships are concerned.

Generally speaking this is how people  get into relationships, first you calculate if the other person is good enough for you to date or not. Is he tall enough?? Is she hot enough?? Is he rich enough?? Is she hot enough?? Is he interesting/funny enough?? Is she hot enough?? Is he intelligent enough? Is she hot enough??

Most of the people you meet never match the criteria you set. They are total reject. But then, there are few, who do fulfil your criteria. Then you meet that person 2-3 times, you will call him/her your friend and 10-12 meetings and maybe your lover.

Finally after few days/meetings, the guy proposes the girl and they end up in something that the world refers to an intimate relationship or an affair or something similar. Now the initial part of their relationship, the beginning of the relationship, both of them are inseparable. Wherever they go, whatever they do, they do it together, and this lasts for a lifetime and for some it might last for one day (which the world popularly calls as one night stand. There are enough sick people out there who go ‘in’ for something like that)

Okay let’s say that the average length of relationship (current scenario) is six months and for some couples it lasts for one and half years. Lucky them…. The initial period is the time in which there is love, there is intimacy, there is the feeling of being loved, the feeling of being cared for, the feeling of having something to look forward to, someone to look up to. The problem begins once this initial period is over..

If scientists are to be believed and I do not authenticate this information in any way whatsoever, the physical attraction towards a certain person lasts for the maximum of one and half years. But then, is it physical attraction towards a certain person that governs the relationship? It is just the physical attraction that a guy and a girl look for out of a relationship?

I do know most of you will have plane NO as an answer but well then why dose love fade away with time??

At first, again, the initial period, there is an intrigue around, you want to know the other person better. The reason that you believe the time you spend with the person to be love, the first few meetings and the first few months because you feel that you are being taken care of. It’s nothing but the attraction you get from the other person that makes you feel loved, cared and all those lovely emotions! At the end of the day, every is an ASB, everybody feels the need of being taken care of and that’s what you tend to consider love. I say this because most of the time, the complain that the guy or the girl has is that they aren’t giving each other enough time. When the statement of ‘you don’t talk to me’ comes, it is generally followed  by ‘you don’t love me anymore’ which is exactly the reason I am forced to think that attention is what all a person seeks out of a relationship!

Love is never wrong, but well the partner you chose may be wrong. That’s why problems occur, you fight and relationship end!

Over years, there are things that you get to know about a person that you don’t appreciate of but you just can’t do anything about it and have to accept the person the way he or she is!! Let’s accept it, if it is love you will  accept the person for how they are and wouldn’t try to impose your opinion or try to mould in the way that you would like!

If you aren’t able to what has been just stated above, it is not love, it will never be love! Over here, I am not denying that you shouldn’t rebuke the person if he or she faulters and takes a path which is totally wrong but you should always try to understand the other person’s perspective as well. All you can do is try and never really impose your opinion on any one. If you do, you don’t love the person. As simple as that. Now, I do believe that there will be a few out there who would term me as a crazy person but well it’s a fact. If you can’t accept the person for the way they are, you were never really in love with them.

It’s shocking, the innumerable number of times people have break ups and patch ups in their relationship, to put it plainly, it pisses me off! Sure there might be a few misunderstandings but well which relationship doesn’t have that? You and your parents too have quarrels and difference of opinion at times, that doesn’t mean you end the relationship altogether. The reason you ‘break up’ the relationship is because it is possible! You can break up a relationship with a certain boyfriend or a certain girlfriend because there isn’t anything at stake apart from a few insomnia filled nights and a few liters of tears and the odd depression struck days!

 As far as I am concerned, if something like this happens in a relationship, things go so wrong that you end up breaking it, it is never meant to be! Okay, once or twice because of a few misunderstandings, (which shouldn’t happen in the first place) can happen but it happens over and over again then I am sorry to say it was never meant to be.

Not only this break up-patch up thing irritating and utter nonsense, but too kiddish. May be you are just an overgrown child! What I mean to say is, if you were a cool headed adult, even if the situation of a misunderstanding arose (which most of the times is because of a certain third person), you should clarify it with the person. Love thrives on trust and if there is trust you wouldn’t ever hide anything and would clarify things no matter how idiotic or how bad it is! As for the break up led by not being able to talk, not being able to give each other time, well that’s the dumbest thing that I would ever do in my lifetime. Fine, you are bound to get irritated if you don’t get your dose of the person but well you have to be understanding enough to reason out and understand the reason for not being able to talk. Another important aspect of a relationship is that if one is angry the other has to be understanding and express love in the weirdest way possible and that is by given in to the other person’s demand. If you have too big a ego to stoop down, well, in that case you don’t deserve to find the love of your life anyway because even if you do, you wouldn’t be able to keep it for long and the break up-patch up cycle will soon begin and more often than not, these things are ultimately bound to end up badly.

In the end, it’s all about understanding the person. Love is all about knowing the person inside out and still loving him or her for what she is. Love, after all is the purest of all the emotions!

PS I am no love guru. All the above is just based on pure observations and may be a little bit of experience too!  So if you really love someone, hold on to him or her for in the current situation, finding true love is arguably the toughest thing possible and holding on to him or her even after having found it, is all the more difficult. So if you find true love you are one of the lucky few who do so hold on no matter what!